I'm a multi-tasker. I PRIDE myself on how well I can juggle a few household tasks at once. I can figure out how to fold laundry, boil water and feed the dog as quickly as possible with as few missteps as possible. I LOVE to make lists and see how many tasks I can get done in one day. Efficiency was my friend. How can I wash diapers, clean the kitchen and feed the kids simultaneously? I'm this mom tornado on my "good" days.
Having Judah has changed so much for me. I can hardly get anything done these days it seems. He is so different from Gabe and wants to be held all the time or he will literally scream until you do pick him up. There is only so many things you can do one-handed! Can I add in that this kid is at least 20 lbs if not more? My arms ache sometimes and yes, I have tried baby wearing and we do a lot of that out and about the city but not as much in the house because it really limits my mobility to do tasks that require bending and reaching high and, well, he still cries.
I have been reading this book and the author talks about how you really have to stop trying to be so efficient and just do one thing at a time and be present in it. Enjoy it even. I read it nodded my head saying "yup thats a great idea", but not really committing to the philosophy of it. Which brings me to the real point of my story...
The boys and I were at the library the other day to return books that I had gotten through the inter-library loan on-line (so efficient!) and Gabe wanted to go to the children's area to play and perhaps bring home a few books. I was so tired from lack of sleep I sat down in a chair to nurse Judah and told Gabe that he would have to go find books by himself. He came back with two and them decided to bring only one home. I asked "Are you sure you don't want more" and he nodded that, yes, one was all he wanted. It seemed like such a waste to go to the library for only one book but off we went to the checkout desk. On the way out to the car the gears started turning in my brain and I had an "aha" moment.
One thing at a time IS a good thing. Gabe wanted to enjoy this book without any pressure to read any others during his time with it. It wasn't about trying to read as many books as he could in his allotted time. These confines that we put ourselves in as adults everyday with almost everything we do didn't apply to him. It was beautiful. Lesson learned...from a 4 year old.
Since then I have really been trying to take what I read in the book to heart and accomplish only one thing at a time. Do it until it's complete before rushing off to the next thing or stopping in the middle to do something else. This all happened last week and I'm happy to report that I have actually been accomplishing more and my house does seem a bit more organized with less half finished tasks starting me in the face. My head isn't spinning from my very often dizzying list of to-do's.
Thank you Janet Luhrs and thank you Gabe.