Playing nice, with ourselves

 I have a very chatty inner dialog that goes on in my head each day from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to sleep. Some are reminders of what needs to get done, a reaction to something, random thoughts, ideas,questions and something else a bit more, well, more sinister...it's how critical and downright nasty we can be to ourselves. We do it without even paying attention to it. I mean have you ever stopped and said what you think in your head out loud to yourself?

The only way I was able to put it into perspective and to quiet (but not stop...yet!) that voice, was to imagine speaking out loud the very things I say to myself on a daily basis, to a dear friend, my children, my spouse...anyone for that matter. Horrible right? You would never say those things, and would not be friends with someone who did. So why do we do it to ourselves, do we think we aren't worth it? It's really sad the hole we dig ourselves into. It's almost like we jump into that hole willingly and then try to pile dirt on top of ourselves, burying our true self. The one that shimmers and laughs and embraces and loves. The one who forgives and is brave beyond belief.

 So today, I ask you all to be gentle with yourself, really listen to that inner voice. I promise she does have wonderful and sweet things to say, just don't forget to put that nasty one out to pasture (at least for today).  

Comments

[Hannah Marcotti]

I think once we allow ourselves to talk that way to ourselves, we do start to talk to our spouses and children in the same way, perhaps just with different context. When we find the quiet to our own minds, the next step is to talk to others as we would love to be spoken to. I always say I want to be the mother at home that I am on the playground! Takes work. Love the self portraits, keep that up. You are so beautiful.